Soccer Woes

Hi mom.

It has been a crazy week. We had four soccer games last week. A's team won all three of theirs, and C's team lost again. So proud of both of them. I think they are both done with soccer. A wants to play lacrosse, I want her to be happy and do what she wants but I don't see her playing after college like I did when she was playing soccer and loved it. I blame the Varsity coach and myself.

The coach because he is a liar and a coward. He lied to her for the past two years. Telling her because of the senior she would be the starting goalie this year. So she sat on the bench. She showed up for every fucking practice. She went above and beyond, taking care of the balls and water for the team because those who were supposed to didn't. He always says at the beginning of the season "there will be consequences", fuck that. Liar. He had players not showing up who he started, players not doing the jobs i.e. water etc, starters. Were there any "consequences" for them? Nope. During practice she would sit on the sidelines, being told over and over again from assistant coaches and other players "oh, you're just a goalie", no she isn't just a goalie. She is an amazing player who gives her all and can play in any position you fucking morons.

Now there is another senior and a freshman who he chose to be the goalies for Varsity so A has been playing JV as a Junior. Coach told her the last day of tryouts she would be on the JV team. She cried. I cried. SHe said she didn't want to play anymore. But I pushed her. Told her not to let him keep pushing her down. Because of him she lost her love of the game. She lost her passion. All because of Coach J. I so badly wanted, still do, talk to the principle, send him an email. Something! This person in a position of authority over her is a lying coward who shouldn't be allowed to coach these girls.

A told me her freshman year she didn't want to play because she heard the girls were very clicky and mean. I told her she could change that mentality. Turns out it is the coach who lets it continue. Who lets these 'mean girls' say terrible things to other players. Who lets the other coaches talk to A and other girls with such disrespect and cruelty.

Well, I do have to say a small thank you to him. Thank you for bringing on a new JV coach. Someone we have known for a few years now. Someone we respect and know he won't lie to us. Him and his wife have two kids that are the same age and grade as A and Z. It is perfect. They are good people. Coach I is an amazing coach. Very encouraging, knows who to put in what position, knows they all need to practice, etc. It is because of him A is having a great season. She loves playing for him and with her current teammates. I asked him last game if I needed to get a petition going to have him as the head coach next year. He laughed it off, but I am still thinking about it.

As for C, her team has only won like 3 games this year. I feel bad for them. Her team is the "B" team. Thing is you wouldn't know it talking to the players. However, if you talk to the parents...whole other story. At tryouts, there were so many girls, us parents were wondering why they didn't create two teams. So, because of our whining they did. Since the start of the season we have felt like our girls don't matter to the club. Like our girls are just scraps, taking whatever we can from under the table.

Our coach was hired into the club for a different position, and decided to coach our team as well as everything else he was doing. He has a full time job at the high school, coaches the boys team at the high school, a girlfriend who is trying to get pregnant but keeps losing the babies. It has been quite the whirlwind 6 months or so for him. So because of everything going on in his personal life and career we were put on his back burner. He couldn't or wouldn't show up to practices. Hardly ever communicated with parents or me, the manager of the team. I was constantly asked if I knew what was going on, I didn't. I was going to take C off of the team when it started, but I am always telling my kids to finish what they started...so here we are. Five months into a season that should never have happened.

Good news though, I hope. C got a new coach, who from what I saw at last nights practice, is actually going to teach them skills. So far he has communicated way more than our previous coach, and it has only been a week with him. So fingers crossed the season will get better.

A has her last game tonight and C has a 3 day tournament starting tomorrow morning at 8 am. We have to be there at 7, and right now the temps are ridiculously low for Florida. Woke up to 35 degrees this morning. I don't mind it as long as there is no wind. It was so windy yesterday, and the temperature just kept dropping. I am hoping there is no wind tonight and tomorrow morning. The girls get to run around to keep warm. I get to sit there and cheer them on, not moving...so cold....brrrrrrrrr

Thinking of you and all the games you took me to when I was younger. I am sure you are thankful most of them were indoors since I played more Volleyball than any other sport. I wish they would play volleyball or an indoor sport, especially in the summer. lol

Love you mom,

Your Daughter

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